I talk a lot in my practice about choice.
Specifically, you’ll hear me talk a lot about becoming more active in choosing where your energy goes every day. Some clients, and friends, are confused by what I mean when I talk about this.
It seems impossible for most of my clients to wrap their heads around the idea that they can choose where their energy goes. Everyone can choose how to feel every day. Yes, you can. You can live in the moment.
Let’s be honest, as much as we all wish our lives would be a perfect vacation, each of us has adult responsibilities. It’s part of life. When I talk about choosing where to put your energy- I don’t mean that you don’t have to work or do dishes, or the other mundane but necessary things we have to do in their lives.
Work is a great example here. Most of us start work already stressed out, and we stay in that space until we get to go home and do whatever it is that helps us unwind. We choose, without realizing it, to constantly be stressed at work, and it’s expected that everyone else will be as well. There are things we can’t always change- like a bad boss, or bad policies. Sometimes we have to face the decision to change jobs because no amount of positive thinking will improve a toxic work environment.
Say you have a difficult boss or a tricky co-worker. When they get on your nerves, instead of being mad at them, you can choose to take some deep breaths and decide how you want to handle them. Do you need to treat them with compassion, or set boundaries? You can choose to let them get to you, or you can choose to let the frustration go. What other people do is about them, what you do is about you.
This is the question to ask yourself every morning. What experience do you want in your day? There are thousands of moments where you can choose what you want, and how you want to feel.
Any moment where we are not in alignment with what we want can change. It starts with a choice and a few deep breaths. It takes you telling yourself what you want going forward.
“I choose to feel at peace today.”
“I choose to stay centered today.”
“I choose to honor how I feel, and release it.”
“I choose to be joyful today.”
These are all choices you can make. You get to choose.
What do you want to feel each day? What do you need more of in your life? How can you make choices to reflect and allow for that?
This is a really important concept to consider. Remember, not making a choice is making a choice. Instead of avoiding, ignoring, or letting feelings you don’t like run your day — choose. Actively choose how you want to feel, and return to that whenever you need to in a day.
What are you choosing today?