Since the beginning of the year, I’ve turned a lot of my personal, and professional focus to the power of positive commitments, and setting Intentions. I have made commitments to myself to increase my water intake and my physical movement.
I can proudly say that I’ve done pretty well. I think it’s critical to honor ourselves when we do well, to say, “I’m proud of myself for accomplishing x, y, z, and I will do my best again tomorrow.”
I know it can be hard to follow through on challenges you set for yourself. It takes, on average, twenty-one days to change a habit. A lot can happen in three weeks, including you beginning to doubt yourself, or allowing life to get in the way.
It’s easy to want to give up. I’ve been there with almost every challenge I’ve set for myself. So do most people I know trying to make a change. It’s easy to want to give up, and we all do sometimes, and then we end up kind of hating ourselves for failing.
So, when you set challenges for yourself and find that you hit a wall or a hard day, and you want to give up — I ask that you first pause. Take some deep breaths. Listen to your body. Do you really need to take a break, or are you being challenged because that’s what happens whenever we make commitments?
If it’s the former, be honest with yourself. If life is impossible to fit in anything new, take a step back, and tell yourself it’s okay to hit pause, and you’ll try again. There’s no shame in it. Be kind to yourself.
If it’s the latter, push aside the doubts, and find a way to carry on.
Either way, be proud of yourself for taking even one day to stick with your positive commitments. Ultimately, you know your body and your life best. Know when it’s time to push through despite challenges, and know when it’s time to take a break.
You are loved either way!